|Be still. Observe. Learn. Not everything deserves a reaction.|
I am a Reactor. I go straight from noticing a situation to just freakin' acting. Not a lot of thought involved. Sometimes, if there's a handle around, you bet I'm going to fly off it.
This isn't such a bad thing when something has fallen from a counter or shelf and is about to hit the floor, or a kid or other type person is in imminent danger. But it's a negative thing in less dire situations, and it could probably also lead to a bar-fight.
Over the last stretch of time, like the last year or so, many phrases about not being so quick to react:
Pause for the cause
Put yourself on a three-second delay
Take a breath
The lion does not turn her head for every little dog that barks along its path
And my favorite right now:
Be still. Observe. Learn. Not everything deserves a reaction.
That one really struck me because so often, it feels like punishment to me when I don't "get to" react. And if it's put in the frame of whether or not something deserves a reaction, not reacting starts to feel more like a privilege than a punishment.
What a power-move, when it's put to me that way.
So there it is. Instead of looking at not giving a reaction to something being a punishment, there's power in deciding to be still, observe, and learn.
There's power in deciding what deserves a reaction, what deserves my energy. Or your energy.